I noticed her a few days ago and I said to myself who is this beauty? I began to question do I even have the right to approach her? It was something about this lady that stood out. Wait, maybe it was the ring but I’m puzzled because I can’t shake her. I mean she has a glow that brought light to my darkness. What is it I asked?
Weeks went pass and I finally told myself I don’t care if I’m right or wrong I must speak to her. Trying to muster up the words to say and yet I’m speechless. I’ve never been this nervous in my life. Listen, I have nothing to lose at this point. Excuse me Ma, can I grab your attention as she walked by paying me no attention.
My pride was crushed and I began to question me as a man. Am I that ugly that she didn’t notice me? I decided to try it again the next day. Excuse me shorty can I please get your attention as she walked by paying me no attention. Now my ego has taken a hit still not focusing on the ring because it was something about her if only I could have one conversation.
A wise man once told me that a man ought to chase the woman but the wise man never told me what to do if she doesn’t receive the chasing! Well, let me try one more time. Excuse me Miss lady can I speak with you for a moment as she continued about her day paying me no attention. Okay, everything about my manhood has been bruised. All type of insecurities began to surface. I felt so out of character.
Days had passed and I said why is it that I can’t get her to notice me? What am I doing wrong? What do I need to do? I decided to pay attention to her. Not stalk her but just from a distance taking mental notes. Days and weeks went by while I was putting it all together before I made my next approach. Then the day came and I had enough information to make my next move.
Like any other day she began to walk in my direction. The closer she drew near, the sweatier my palms became. She walked right by me and while I was facing her back I spoke aloud but firm, Phenomenal Woman! She stopped in her tracks. Followed with Virtuous Woman! She turned around. I said to myself, wait, what is she doing? Is she really noticing me? Yes! I continued with pardon my abrasive actions prior to now. My name is John and I couldn’t help but to notice that there is a glow about you that intrigued me. She replied, why thank you sir my name is Samantha please to meet you.
Pay Attention – John saw a woman that made him chase her. He wanted her so bad that he decided to study the woman he desired. Samantha is a woman of charisma and great integrity. She knew John was trying to get her attention all along. However, she was able to bring him up to her standards without saying a word. She understood that if he were the man for her then he would do whatever was needed in order to grab her attention. John began to study on how to approach a woman. He examined himself and made the necessary changes required to get the woman he desired.
The Ring – Samantha made a promise to herself that she would never lower her standards. The beauty about her standards was that they were realistic. It represented her being married to excellence, self-respect, integrity, and humility yet confident in knowing who she is etc. She never put herself under pressure because of her age or society rules.
Married Woman – John fell in love with Samantha because she never looked down on him. From the very beginning she was helping him to become better and win her over. He loved the challenge of changing to become what she needed to feel safe and secure. Samantha fell in love with John because he was willing to die to self in order to lead them as one. He opened her heart by replacing the promise ring with a wedding ring. They both made a vow to always focus on the other more than self. Why, you ask? Because if he’s taking care of all her needs 100% and she’s taking care of his needs 100%, where do they have time to lack or complain about needs not being met? They built a selfless relationship. The married woman that John fell in love with is his wife Samantha.